Wednesday, December 10, 2014
mother Christmas (holiday giveaway)
Love is in the details.
This is something my mother exemplified. She was not an overtly demonstrative person: she would not heap words of affection upon you nor would she be constantly hugging or kissing you.
Much to Cowgirl's chagrin, I am very different in this respect from my mother. I am wildly verbal and physical in my love. If I wore lipstick, Cowgirl would be perpetually smeared from head to toe in holly berry red. I am both a toe nibbler and cheek pincher, and I can (and do) say I love you in four other languages.
No, my mother did not shout her affections. She quietly demonstrated her love and care through attention to detail and consistent presence. She always said "I love you" at the end of our phone calls and she always greeted me with a quick peck on the lips (our family falls into the lip kissing versus cheek kissing camp). Her love was quiet, but it went deep.
My mother was the best gift giver. It wasn't just that she gave me the gifts I asked for; more often than not, she gave me the gifts I didn't know to ask for ... the gifts that I would not have imagined to be mine. She did this by paying close attention. She would remember a comment I made about a robe in a shop window and months later, it would appear wrapped and under the tree. She excelled in slipping items to shop clerks when my back was turned, sneaking the gift home and tucking it away until the time came for her to surprise and delight me.
When I was very little, I desperately wanted these Country Mouse, City Mouse play house sets I saw in the F.A.O. Schwartz catalog. That Christmas I received both. But not the store bought ones (overpriced and bland) - she made me the two houses herself! She decorated the insides with wallpaper, carpet, doll furniture, and tiny aprons for each mouse. I loved those houses until they fell apart.
Another year, she made me my own Little House on the Prairie Doll ...
complete with a wardrobe of dresses, bonnets,nightgowns and quilt she sewed herself ...
and little shoes!
In the past few years, it was my turn to surprise my mother with unexpected gifts, especially at Christmas time. Her stocking seemed to be the fattest as I filled it with fun little treasures and pleasures. Nothing fancy, but what I remembered she loved.
These past few weeks I have been drifting through my days. Slowly, slowly I am easing myself back in. I had the pleasure to create a set of prayer flags for a woman expecting her first child. She shared with me her intention for the coming year Is Trust. Like my mother, I try my best to tease out the meaningful through attention to details.
As I sat at my mother's sewing machine, it struck me as wildly fitting I was working with the intention of trust as I return to my daily activities and my work.
I've created my own life, but it was nurtured and supported by the constant love and attention of my mother. I never questioned her being there for me. Her love and her belief in my abilities, mentored me in the experience of Trust. Not just in her love, but trust in myself. In turn, I hope I can do the same for my daughter.
To honor my mother's memory this holiday season, I want to hear more stories about our mothers. How did your mother convey her love and care to you? What magical memories come to mind when you think about the holiday season and how did your mother feed that magic? Perhaps yours is a memory not about your biological mother, but about someone mothering you in a deep and rich way. I would love to celebrate those stories as well.
To celebrate the spirit of perfect gifts, I am giving away a deck of Awakening to Your Divine Self Oracle Cards.
This deck contains 44 beautiful images created by 39 artists from around the globe, including yours truly. Each card offers a message of loving wisdom and quiet inspiration, messages gleaned from each artist's conversation with her deeper self. For every story shared in the comments section below, I will enter your name into the drawing. If you would rather submit your story via email, you can contact me at: Lishofmann88(at)gmail(dot)com. I also have decks to sell ($29.95 includes shipping to US and Canada; other artists selling the cards can be found HERE)
I will pick a name and announce a winner next Sunday (December 21). So be sure I have a way to contact you should you win!
My wisdom card in the deck?
Trust, of course!